What, you didn't meet under the stars with moonlight in your eyes and the most amazing song playing in the background that was the catalyst for you falling in love??! That's hard to believe because it happens all the time in the movies! Perhaps it's a generational thing but it seemed like in the 50's (movies I guess since I wasn't alive then) everyone knew what their song was as a couple. It seems to be less common now possibly because music is around us all the time, in shops, grocery stores, dentist offices, at work, so it's not as momentous of an occasion when you're with the one you love and music is playing. So, what does this all mean? It's harder to find a First Dance song! I guess everything's harder in real life then it is in the movies.
My suggestions:
You are not limited! There are millions of songs to choose from. Don't hold back from choosing Marvin Gaye's Let's Get It On if that's what you two really love and enjoy for whatever reasons. Don't feel obligated to choose a song from the somewhat short list of "acceptable", "traditional", "wedding song sounding" songs.
Overwhelmed? You love lots and lots of different types of music? Here is a site that has some great ideas that go beyond the generic choices: Offbeat Bride , or if you're looking for something more traditional or popular look here: Top 115 Wedding First Dance Songs.
My new favorite at the moment, in the sweet, charming category, is Pretty Flowers sung by Dolly Parton and Vince Gill, written by my husband in a past life, Steve Martin.
I will be adding a new section to my site of songs I have choreographed to for couples. Check back! Have fun listening!